On Her Rights
I previously believed that a woman has her rights to be independent, at the same time she also has her rights to choose when not to be such. In discussions with several male friends, they all tell me the same thing, they find an independent woman more attractive than one who is not so independent, but if that woman is over-independent, then she becomes unattractive.
Which leaves us 'liberated' females in fix, doesn't it? How do you actually determine that extent of which you ought to be accountable to yourself only? What makes independentness attractive or not?
In my mother's time I guess it's easier, more or less, that is. Despite being marginalized as a subordinate, at least it was clear cut that the woman's job was in the home, in the kitchen, to feed the babies, cook the dishes and other such domestic duties. Nowadays, we're expected to do the domestic chores and still be financially and mentally independant. We're expected to account for the little accidents that are our unintentional faults, and we're expected to say sorry too. We can't, anymore, expect the man to carry our bags because we're supposed to be 'independent,' nor should we fret about walking alone at 11 pm to a not-so-deserted parking lot which is just about 300 meters away. We should not expect him to remember details such as not being able to take caffeine after 4pm, and then we need to learn how to swallow our rising temper when we feel that we're unjustly wronged, or when someone raises a voice at us. We have legs, which justifies why we should be able to walk up to the counter and ask for things ourselves. And then we've expected to say thank you for everything else in between, while we need to learn how to preserve a saintly composure and accept that not everyone appreciates the little things we do for him. We ought not to expect 'I'm sorry-s' for no apparent reason, because EVERYTHING HAS GOT TO BE ACCOUNTED FOR. About twenty years ago, a wife can hope that the guy she marries will provide for everything, CAN HOPE! Now? Hah... the guy she will marry will hope that she will be able to share part of his financial burden.
BTW, I'm definitely not a feminist, nor am I an advocate for equal rights. I tell, this equal rights thingy, none of the clauses will benefit us women. It's going to be a 'take some, provide some more' exchange.
